Both those things fill me with hate, as does the sad fact that people still insist on blaming the victim in a crime about power. I’m glad you can talk about it the way you do, because that’s what needs to happen in order for things to change. I hope things have at least changed from when these things happened to you (I remember an episode of Quantum Leap from the early 90s about date rape, and the situation it presented shocked me with its raw unfairness), and I hope they throw the book at Frost. Given Ontario’s history with child abuse cases (MLG janitor and kids-in-cage come to mind as examples), it’s sadly not likely, but maybe the time that went into this will make it stick in a meaningful way.

As for MC, he’s a lawyer. I don’t know if he’s a criminal lawyer, but either way, he has to consider these sorts of things. Hopefully, the time delay involved here means that the prosecutors and detectives involved have.

It’s weird when staying out of it is actually the best course of action. It’s times like this I wish I believed in karma. I’d sleep better and not be up right now commenting on something that disturbs me.

Yes and no.

Everybody has their own way of coping–some constructive, some destructive. My coping technique is to talk about what happened, because by talking about it and getting it out in the open the healing process is accelerated.

It is painful to talk about at times, but it’s made me a stronger person. And if talking about it drives home a point or sends some sort of positive “I refuse to be a victim”-type message to others, then so much the better.

Well, let’s be fair to mc79 (since he better explained where he was coming from in a later comment). David Frost is a dirtbag and a creep–that much was made crystal-clear by The Fifth Estate’s piece on the guy.

But he also has a right to a fair trial just like every other Canadian citizen, and the Crown still has to convince a jury that the man actually did what he’s been charged with.

If the investigators have done their job, and the evidence and testimony drive away all doubt, then I hope the Crown can get David Frost put away for a long, long time.

Statements like the one you are reacting to show absolutely no empathy, and reasons why rape and child abuse are STILL such a prevalent crime today. Kudos to you for your courage. And thumbs down to mudcrutch79 who obviously has no idea what empathy is.

“There are some people who are so dangerous that they should be removed from society,” as the best probation officer I knew once said.

And thank you for being so brave. “I’m sorry” is the only thing I can think of…words fail.